If one is not seeking
to grow spiritually, the relationship is based on and will be kept together
for only a while by physical needs and concerns. The 'honeymoon' wears
off all too quickly. Such a flimsy basis endangers the relationship the
more it encounters the vicissitudes of living. The heart
is made to be a 'spiritual thing'. Trying to please the heart with physical
things (vacations, gifts, entertainment, the excitement of things, etc.)
is short lived, leaving one somewhat frustrated.
Care and concern satisfy
the heart, because these are some of the higher consciousness values
of the soul. Only spiritual things satisfy continuously. Life needs
to be satisfying in the present. It's the present that is eternal. Think
of that in the idea of hell.
Have your attention on what
is (now) and get its fullness in every way. Enjoy bliss.
Bliss rides on the current of natural feeling. Be mindful,
full of awareness, in the present.
Read that again to get it.
The Infinite One told Abraham
to listen to Sarah:.Genesis
21:12. Sarah was a woman who fit in well with Abraham:.1Peter
3:6. The key to think about is: What makes a relationship (your relationship)
work? What does it take to make it last? Approaching a relationship from
unbending polarized (two extreme and variant points of view) viewpoints
does not contribute to building the rapport
necessary for an solid relationship:.Amos
3:3.
Get a guy who loves you
(see 'and ladies' and look up the
scriptures mentioned there). Obviously a guy who's beating a woman up is
not at all concerned with any kind of rapport with her whatsoever. Get
out from him quick while you are still breathing! Perhaps she also is not
really interested in rapport with him, for some foolish women just harp
and harp on things:.Proverbs
26:17; 27:15.
A guy who cannot handle
frustrations; a guy who does not smile at children, and note if children
respond to him; a guy who serves himself first; is not a guy you will grow
spiritually with. Some people, both guys and girls just go around putting
holes in others.
The rapport needed for a
decent relationship must be there if the relationship is to progress. Without
this, only fear will develop if you set yourself up with one of these."children
of the devil".(Ephesians
2:2,3 and again,
2Corinthians
6:14 and Amos 3:3).
If you live with such a dolt,
you will have trouble in your home:.Proverbs
11:29. He may even go to church!
Does he love the spiritual
things of the true Infinite One, and is he humble
enough to produce works of service and love to others?.If.he
is that way with others, he'll be that way with you too. Or is he the type
that if his pride is hurt, he will
take it out on you? Look for things:.Galatians
5:19-26; Proverbs 10:18;
28:26.
See the guy as he is, not as you wish and hope that he would become.
Also most important is background.
What
is the heritage? Are his mom and dad still together? Did they love
one another and him too? Did they show affection to each other and do things
together with and for one another? Try to find these things out, before
you let your heart get involved:.Proverbs
4:23.
And look for a man who can
and wants to provide:.1Timothy
5:8.
Guys and ladies: If a person
is truly a spiritual person of love, there will be kindness and consideration
coming forth from him or her; important qualities to be looking for. Avoid
those offensive in manner who retort.vituperatively
with answers that antagonize.
Avoid getting involved with
a demanding person. Demanding people tend to be cruel and uncaring. And
stay away from fragile relationships too. A fragile relationship is where
you have to 'tippy toe' around the other for fear of being offensive. In
such a relationship, there is no mutual unconditional acceptance of each
other's personality. You're headed for disaster.
The last thing you want is
strife in your relationship. Look for unselfish mates. Strife is born of
a selfish nature. Seek someone easy to be with, easy to talk with:.James
3:17,18. One cannot have much (or any) peace when the other does not
approve of you. Why waste your time?
The ability to be intimate
is knowing what the other feels, and allowing the other into every aspect
of who you are. An honest person hides nothing:.Romans
12:17 ".....Provide things honest in the sight of all men."
Why
should he or she even want to hide anything? If God knows all and God is
most important in his or her life, they will.want.to
be open. He or she each knows what they now are in God, so the past.should.not
matter.
Obviously one is only open
are with another they are sure that they can trust. Selfish
persons have great difficulty with being intimate.
Both men and women can be
very nice on the surface for years. As soon as intimacy deepens, the worst
can come out. Many just can't handle it. The insecurities and vulnerabilities
of each can become difficult to cope with.
Love covers, but many mates
would rather haul out all the garbage when upset and present it again to
the one they claim to 'love':.1Peter
4:8;.Romans
13:10; Proverbs 10:12.
Love is responding positively
to what someone is, more than to what they say. Words of love are valueless
if not felt. Many you meet will be incapable of feeling your love. Don't
waste your time on them. Ask yourself if the other has good will toward
you.
Passion is intense longing
for union. Negativity
in a mate kills desire for passion in both. If you can't be happy with
someone, you really can't be with them. The most beautiful 'make up' a
woman can wear is passion.....continues
